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The list of things that can happen to harm one's relationship is staggering, but probably the most unbelievable thing about it is that nearly everything that regularly causes couples to break up is, simply put, STUPID. At least 95% of relationship issues are totally avoidable with a little common sense, loyalty, and integrity, and you can see that by looking at the following 5 most common culprits for relationship death. 1) Being unfaithful (a.k.a. CHEATING). This is the most disgusting and unforgivable offense, in my opinion. Traditionally thought of as happening when a guy can't keep his pants on, more and more women are having trouble having the human decency to be loyal to the ones they love. It's revolting to me when a person is so consumed by the basic animal side that they can't resist going out and doing something stupid. It's very simple: don't cheat on your partner. If you love your partner at all, you love him or her too much to cause that kind of heartache...and trust me, they ALWAYS find out. 2) Lack of even a smidgeon of trust in your partner. Ladies are stereotyped as being the worst with this, but guys are just as bad sometimes. People, your partner is not going to go rambling around and getting into trouble with members of the opposite sex if you leave him or her alone for fifteen minutes. Endless phone calls to check in on your partner, harassment as to where he or she has been the instant he/she gets in the door...it can be funny in the movies, but in real life it's exhausting and claustrophobic. If you can't trust your partner, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him or her. Lay off. 3) Lack of regard for your partner's feelings, or emotional support. I know, it's such a cliched expression that I feel silly just using it, but not giving your partner the emotional support he or she needs is a painful and self-esteem damaging thing. When the one you love has a difficult time seeing how much you DO love him or her, it hurts! Most of this can be helped just by listening to your partner...really listening, and responding like a human person rather than a parrot. A little support from the one who loves you isn't too much to ask, so don't be stingy in giving it. 4) Allowing fights and lovers' quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It's healthy, it's natural...it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what's making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON'T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don't let them break you two apart...excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don't let yours be one of them. 5) Lack of "zest" in a relationship. I'm not talking about craziness in the bedroom here, I'm talking about enjoying each other and the time you spend together, keeping things active and loving your lives together. Boredom and lack of spontanaeity is a deadly threat to relationships that's been on the uptrend lately, and nothing makes me sadder than when I hear of a couple that was beautiful for each other and loved each other deeply just kind of dissolving because there wasn't much there anymore. Stay creative with your love, and make every day you're with your partner as much of a blessing as it should be. Well now you've been versed in the basic Five Deadly Relationship Sins. Any one of these can really cripple your relationship, and even the person you share it with...so in the name of anything you consider holy, avoid hurting the one you love by keeping these things from ever having a chance to destroy your relationship. With a little bit of trust, care, and decency, your biggest threats can be absolutely nothing. So try your hardest not to hurt your partner with these stupid and avoidable problems. There's no reason the two of you can't be swimming in happiness together, so long as you make a little effort to be a human being...and I don't see that as an unfair requirement.
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