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Years have passed, but some sayings have remained. Despite changes in society and culture, these adages can still ring true in our lives. Six old and wise sayings should come to mind when you think about moving past infidelity in your relationship. You cannot see the forest because of the trees. This adage applies to how you feel when you first find out about the infidelity. The infidelity becomes the only thing we can focus on. We only see our hurt, anger and pain, not why the situation happened. Try to step back from the situation and see it as a whole. Look at what happened in and around the situation rather than just at the infidelity itself. Learn from your experiences. Once you have viewed the entire forest, begin the process of learning from your experience. You may have pretended you knew how you would feel in adult situations as a child, but you never know how you will truly feel until you are in the situation. Come to an agreement with your partner that this was a one time situation and put it behind you so you can move forward together. A cent for your thoughts. Communication is the key to every great relationship according to anyone who knows anything. Communication is especially difficult when you have to tell someone you love something that will hurt and upset them. However, if you keep holding it in, you will only allow it to get worse before you finally blurt it out. You should take time to consider how you will say what needs to be said and then find an appropriate time to share your feelings. It's not you, it's me. Here's a cliche that does NOT belong on the list of how to survive infidelity. It's mentioned here to make sure you DON'T use it. Because it will come up. It always does. It's not just one or the other - it's both. Even if you are the one cheated on, your behavior may need some tweaking. Although it's easy to do and a natural feeling, don't necessarily put all the blame on the guilty party. Share the experience, share the guilt and share the rewards of the future. Just because it's simple, doesn't mean it's easy. It's simple to get married. Get a license, say "I do" and move in together. That's the simple part. But marriage is not easy. It's a full-time job, a full-time commitment and it needs to be worked on every day. Every day. The steepness of the cliffs and valleys of a marriage are measured by your ability to communicate, to bend but not break, and to forgive. Time heals all wounds. This one's saved for last. It's probably the oldest cliche there is and it's the truest one of the bunch. It goes back to the first cliche in our list because once we get past the initial situation, resolve and forgive, then it's just a matter of time. Of moving on to bigger and better things. To let this pass and to grow. These adages and wise sayings are not only good to remember in surviving adultery. They are also the keys to a happy and successful marriage. Hopefully these tips and reminders will help you survive infidelity should it happen in your relationship.
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