Home | Self Improvement | Attraction
Sadly, there are a lot of guys out there that believe that the more 'nice' they are to a woman the more she will be attracted to him, and that he is the sort of man that she has been waiting for all of her life. He is the sort of man that is different from all of those nasty selfish other men with all their uncouth ways, such as leaving their socks all over the place and the lid off the toothpaste. He tries extra hard to convince her that he is not like the others and that she is safe with him. What this type of guy is doing is trying to identify with his date on a womans level, thereby feminizing himself. She politely entertains him with menial conversation while her eyes scan the room, and then after she has given some other guy the magic glance, he swiftly comes over and asks her to dance in front of him, without any fear at all of reprisal. His 'niceness' was a complete waste of effort and he is left dejected. Sounds familiar? I'll bet it does. And guess what, our 'nice guy' just puts it down to all women being callous bitches and that 'she will learn her mistake'. I've even heard 'nice guys' convince themselves that a certain attractive woman in a bar or club actually fancies him, even when the woman in question is sticking her tongue into the mouth of some unshaven jerk that will most likely never call her once the night is over. INCREDIBLE. The whole truth is, that most women and I stress most not all, but particularly attractive young women find 'nice guys' embarrass them. They are having attention and admiration showered upon them that they haven't had to earn. I ask you, who can value that which they haven't had to work for. I'll bet if you're a woman reading this, you can remember dozens if not hundreds of 'nice guy' dates that you couldn't wait to get shot of in preference to a guy that didn't care what you thought of him. A guy that had confidence in himself and who made you FEEL LIKE A WOMAN because he was acting like a MAN. You see, this is where the 'nice guy' screws up every time when he's trying to attract the opposite sex. He forgets that he is the opposite sex to her and that is what is meant to attract her to HIM. He seems to think that the way to end up making love to her is by acting like her darn father or a loving brother. How can he expect to give her those feelings and get sexual attraction in return. It doesn't work that way. O.K. It probably seems like I'm being harsh, and that some guys are going to hate me right now. In fact, if there are women reading this, some of those will hate me too. I don't care. There will always be exceptions, but I'm not interested in helping the exceptions, the reason... I used to fall into the majority of guys suffering from 'nice guy syndrome' and I felt lousy. I felt so bad I had to analyze what I was doing wrong around women. I figured that it couldn't be all their fault and that I was missing something. What I eventually found out astounded me, in fact it turned my world upside down for a while. Everything that I perceived about how attraction works was around the other way. It turned out that the type of guys I thought were noxious to women were the ones that they craved and that my 'niceness' was what women found noxious. Boy, what a discovery that I thank God for every day. Visit my site and I will tell you why. Dan Dicker is the owner of www.nice-guys-finish-last.com
Article Source: http://www.ApprovedArticles.com
Please Rate this Article
5 out of 54 out of 53 out of 52 out of 51 out of 5
Not yet Rated
